When conversing with a good friend on the phone tonight, she was telling me about another friend of hers who just got married. Though she is happy for her friend, she is also a little....leary about the equality of the match. Now, this could be that my friend (we'll call her 'Alice'), 'Alice' is biased about how great her friend is and so doesn't believe that anyone could match up...or, she is right.
In any case, 'Alice'said that it just seems like when you get married you both should feel like you've won the lottery....and though Alice believes that today her friend thinks she did when the lottery, she is afraid that there may be a day when her friend wakes up and realizes that she only won church bingo.
So, since my friend 'Alice' and I sometimes feel like the odds of finding the right guy is a kin to winning the lottery, I would like to hear some encouragement from those LOTTO winners out there (the married contingent if you can't follow my analogy here).
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Charlene-
Definitely follow your analogy. As one who knows the inestimable JACKPOT that I have in my husband Ben and also the apparent 'church bingo' that he may seem to some one the outside, let me reassure you (and 'Alice') that as always it is the reality of the spirit that is important. If this friend sees in his spirit and hers the eternity of a God-breathed relationship - to me, that is the hinge that the balance of 'good match, bad match' hangs on. (There must also be an intense level of commitment on both sides of the relationship, but this, I will assume, is the case.) Beyond that, the friend needs the support, encouragement, and love of all her friends, as this will help her succeed.
As a side note: while finding that all-important someone may seem to have the odds of a lottery, the reality is oh-so-much better than a lottery could ever be. :>
As another Jackpot winner I have to say it is well worth it to wait for the one God has for you! God is such a good Father he knows exactly what you need and has designed you from birth to fit. It's still hard work, but wow is it worth it.
The good thing is that if all the people who surround you and love you (and there are many of us) thought it was merely Bingo you would have a hard time shutting us up so... you are protected by the people God has placed in your life and when then Jackpot comes a long I want to be the first to fly down, across, up or over to meet him! (depending on where you are living at the time! Is it to much to hope that maybe you will live so local to me I won't have to fly? :-)
I probably shouldn’t post comments before coffee or food in the morning so if this makes no sense please ignore!
You have been busy blogging!
I'm going to take the lottery/bingo analogy a step further. That feeling of winning one game or the other is based on just that.... feeling. So some days you will feel like the luckiest person on the planet.... ever... and other days you will question the ability of the "spouse-choosing" part of your brain.
What really matters is what you do with whatever amount of currency (feeling) you have for that day.
Do you go blow it on video games and big cars (selfish emotion: anger, pity, retaliation) or do you invest it (selfless acts: listening, choosing to love and respect, admitting you're wrong)?
So no matter how you may feel on any given day, when you daily make a choice to love and respect, those investments build upon eachother until it doesn't even matter how much of a winner you were (or weren't) on your wedding day. In time you become filthy stinkin ree-och!!!
wow - you are quite the blogger these days! interesting thoughts, these lotto ones. all i have to add to what has already been said is that no matter how "perfect" the match, love and marriage is always work. i don't mean that in a bad way, but a strong, solid, thriving marriage doesn't just happen. it takes effort from both sides. the commitment to giving that effort no matter what we may feel like on any given day is what makes my marriage the JACKPOT!
I agree with Natalie 100%. I remember when a really good friend of mine was incredibly concerned about the marriage I was getting into because I never said that I was "in love" with my intended spouse. It was true, I was not head over heals in love with him, but knew beyond any doubt that this man was the one God has placed in my life to live with, minister with, have children with and to love. Over time we have grown in our love for each other. It is kind of like an arranged marriage. Through our trials and joys we have found our marriage to be quite a "jackpot." Though I am not sure I would use the analogy of winning the lottery with gaining the right spouse. Not sure why, except that it doesn't even seem to compare :O)
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